How can I combat fear before a fight and have a combination of good fear and cool anger to utilize to defend myself and family? I haven't fought in years and the peoplea are more vicious thatn before. I just can fight at the drop of a dime. In other words how can I activate my killer instinct. the things that hold me back are the fear of going to prison for assault, and being stripped from my family. I have a son and wife to worry about!!! How can I activate this mechanism??

the things that hold me back are the fear of going to prison for assault, and being stripped from my family. I have a son and wife to worry about!!


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Your thoughts are very normal and natural your family and kids are more important than any ego that might me be raised before a fight I know it is difficult for any of us to pull back because all your life you train for such a situation but unfortunately because of our kids and family we might be feared not to hurt the other person but to hurt our family as you said I am a father of three children and also a jeweler I fear going to work everyday because of someone might blow me away. These are my guides in real fighting.

1. BE VERY RELAXED, NOT TENSE.
2. BE READY, BE AGGRESSIVE.
3. HAVE FULL CONFIDENCE.
4. USE YOUR NATURAL INSTINCT.
5. USE NON-TELEGRAPHIC MOVEMENTS.
6. USE NON-SOPHISTICATED MOVEMENTS.
7. PUZZLE YOUR OPPONENT WITH DIFFERENT ATTACKS.
8. NEVER GET INTIMIDATED.
9. DO NOT CONCENTRATE ON BODY SIZE.
10. NEVER UNDERESTIMATE YOUR OPPONENT.
11. TIMING IS KEY.
12. DO NOT LIMIT YOUR SELF TO JUST KICKING BELOW THE WAIST LINE.
13. SIMPLY "EXPRESS YOURSELF".
14. FLOW AROUND YOUR OPPONENT LIKE WATER.
15. EVERY HIT SHOULD FINISH WITH A "SNAP".
16. YOU MUST PUT YOUR ENTIRE HIP INTO IT TO RELEASE THE POWER.
17. BE FORMLESS AND SHAPELESS. BECOME THE OPPONENT'S STYLE.
18. HANDS MUST REMAIN LOOSE AND RELAXED.
19. FIST IS CLENCHED AT MOMENT OF IMPACT OR 2 INCHES BEFORE THE TARGET.
20. SPEED EQUALS POWER.
21. TRAIN UNTIL EMPTINESS. RESPOND WITHOUT THINKING.
22. DON'T GO INTO ANY FANCY STANCES.
23. KEEP YOUR MOVES SIMPLE AND DIRECT.
24. FOOTWORK MUST BE EXECUTED WITH EVERY HIT TO GAIN FULL POWER.
25. A PERSON WITH A WEAPON IS SURELY TO LOSE, FOR HE HAS ONLY ONE WEAPON.
26. YOU HAVE MANY WEAPONS, LIKE HANDS, FEET, ELBOWS, KNEES, ETC.
27. NEVER CONCENTRATE ON YOUR OPPONENT'S WEAPON. "YOU WILL MISS ALL THE HEAVENLY GLORY."
28. NERVOUSNESS BLINDS YOU.
29. ATTACK WITH ALL YOU'VE GOT. NEVER SHORTEN YOUR HITS.
30. ATTACKS MUST FINISH BEYOND TARGET LINE.
31. EVERY PUNCH MUST BE FOLLOWED BY A KICK, ELBOW, OR KNEE, ETC., TO BE VICTORIOUS.
32. BE VERY ALOOF AND DECEPTIVE.
33. ALWAYS ATTACK THROUGH THE CENTER LINE. THAT IS WHERE ALL THE VITAL ORGANS ARE.
34. IN INTERCEPTING, USE YOUR LONGEST WEAPON AGAINST THE NEAREST TARGET: THE KNEE CAP.
35. NEVER PUT DOWN OTHER STYLES OF MARTIAL ARTS.
36. TO EARN RESPECT, ALWAYS SHOW RESPECT.
37. LEARN FROM ANYONE WHO IS WILLING TO TEACH YOU.
38. NEVER TRY TO PROVE ANYTHING TO ANYONE.
39. NEVER GIVE YOUR OPINION UNLESS IT IS ASKED FOR.
40. "EMPTY YOUR CUP TO GAIN TOTALITY".
41. ALWAYS ABSORB WHAT IS USEFUL, THEN REJECT.
42. NEVER REJECT ANYTHING UNLESS YOU UNDERSTAND THE MEANING BEHIND IT.
43. ALWAYS LISTEN. YOU WILL LEARN SOMETHING EVEN IF IT IS JUST ONE THING.
44. A GOOD MARTIAL ARTIST DOES NOT INDULGE IN ANY FIGHTS UNLESS THE FIGHT IS BROUGHT ON TO HIM.
45. A GOOD MARTIAL ARTIST IS ALWAYS IN CONTROL OF HIS EMOTIONS.
46. A GOOD MARTIAL ARTIST ALWAYS AVOIDS FIGHTING.
47. A GOOD MARTIAL ARTIST SEEKS TO DISARM, NOT TO DESTROY.
48. A GOOD MARTIAL ARTIST IS ALWAYS IN CONTROL OF THE FLOW OF THE FIGHT.
49. A GOOD MARTIAL ARTIST NEVER BELITTLES HIS OPPONENT.
50. TRUE MARTIAL ARTISTS KNOW THEMSELVES.