My husband can be a real downer too. He just "uh huhs" alot when I tell him what we are working on. Indirectly, he caused the problems that we are having with our school district from his lack of support. He let them know at our first IEP that we differ on an issue. But it is a big issue with how our son responds to people and effects all of their interactions with him. In some ways he is supportive. But he seems depressed over the autism and it bothers me when he'll take my daughter out to breakfast or to play soccer, but never him. (my suggestion to spend time with her, but it is the omitting my son ALWAYs that bothers me) He will take the opposite stand on alot of issues and often wants to do what other parents do with their children, instead of what "works" with our child. This makes my works SO much harder. As you can tell, I have alot of resentment. And I feel because he didn't support me early on, I have become "needier" (than I could have been) about having so much supports now. He never once has looked up anything on autism when he gets on the internet. Not once. (what is that? denial? It has been 5 years since our son regressed) And he tends to have lack of motivation himself. In the 11 years we've been married, he has never cleaned out the garage or basement. Though there are times that it needed it so much. He just gets overwhelmed at any kind of work. He is like a child getting out of things. I'm so busy with Troy, I am too unmotivated myself, to try to motivate him or do some of the stuff myself, which is what I used to do.
You can vent anytime. (I guess I had some venting too--oops! lol)