Does this sound like you?
You lack self-confidence
You are shy; can't think of what to say
You are sensitive and self-conscious
You feel lonely, depressed or anxious
Your relationships aren't working
Building self-confidence is not an easy task but it can be done with some persistence and determination. The focus of this book is to help with that task. The material is designed to give you a grip on self-understanding. It was written as a result of seeing many people over the years and is also based on material and information that I have presented at many workshops.
Self-Confidence
http://www.psychological-selfhelp.com/selfcon.htm
Q. What is self-confidence, or as psychologists call it, self-esteem?
A. Self-esteem is the way you feel about yourself based upon your perception of how effectively you deal with the world. It is how you evaluate you. People with a great deal of confidence feel good about themselves and think that they are able to accomplish most tasks that confront them.
Q. When does self-confidence start to develop?
A. Self-esteem has its roots in early experiences. It starts with parents helping the child to feel worthwhile and competent in mastering early childhood tasks. It then continues to be nourished through achieving competency in areas important to the person involved.
In the development of self-esteem, I think that the most important in gredients are loving and being loved. The developing child who feels loved and accepted can overcome life's greatest hurdles: physical handicaps, poverty, etc. Conversely, if a child feels unloved, nothing will make up for it; not even showering him/her with material goods. It is also very important that parents be certain that the child knows that she/he is loved. Many times parents truly love their children but are not very good at
conveying this message.
Q. What are the consequences of low self-confidence?
A. Self-confidence affects our entire life. In general, the rougher the going gets on the outside, the greater the need for self-worth on the inside. Your ability to overcome obstacles is enhanced if you have high self-esteem. You are who you think you are, no more, no less. That's why it pays to think great!
Q. Do most people have self-confidence?
A. Most people have confidence in some areas. The more areas the better. People who are confident in many areas tend to be the happiest and are less prone to depression and anxiety.
Q. Can people improve their current level of self-worth?
A. Certainly. The best way to improve a poor image is to try something and follow through. After all, it is better to try something and fail than to be successful at not trying anything. The attempts you make give you practice in trying different approaches until you succeed.
