Discover the 90/10 Secret: It will change your life.
The 90/10 secret is incredible! Very few know and
apply this secret. The result? Millions of people are
suffering undeserved stress, trials, problems, and
heartache. They never seem to be a success in life.
Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be
constantly happening. Their is constant stress, lack
of joy, and broken relationships. Worry consumes time,
anger breaks friendships, and life seems dreary and is
not enjoyed to the fullest.. Friends are lost. Life is
a bore and often seems cruel.
Does this describe you? If so, do not be discouraged.
You can be different! Understand and apply the 90/10
secret. It will change your life! What is this secret?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is decided by how you react.
What does this mean? We really have no control over
10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car
from breaking down. The plane may be late arriving,
which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut
us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%.
The other 90% is different. You determine the other
90%! How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red
light, but you can control your reaction. Don't let
people fool you, YOU can control how you react! Let's
use an example.
You're eating breakfast with your family. Your
daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your
business shirt. You have no control over what just
happened. What happens next will be determined by how
you react.
You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for
knocking the coffee cup over. She breaks down in
tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and
criticize them for placing the cup to close to the
edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You
storm upstairs and change your shirt.
Back downstairs you find your daughter has been to
busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for
school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave
immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive
your daughter to school.
Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a
30 mph speed limit.. After a 15 minute delay and
throwing $60 away, you arrive at school. Your daughter
runs to the building without saying good-bye. After
arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you
forgot your briefcase.
Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it
seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to
going home. When you arrive home you find small wedge
in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day? ___
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the Policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is d. You had no control over what
happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5
seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what
could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to
cry. You gently say "It's OK honey, you just need to
be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush
upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your
briefcase. You come back down in time look through the
window and see your child getting on the bus. She
turns and waves.
You and your spouse kiss before you both go to work.
You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the
staff. Your boss comments on how good of day you are
having.
Notice the difference. Two different scenarios. Both
started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because
of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control
over 10% of what happens. The other 90% is determined
by your reaction. Here are some ways to apply the
90/10 secret.
If someone says something negative about you, do not
be sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on
glass. You do have to let the negative comment affect
you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A
wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being
fired, getting stressed out, etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?
Do you loose your temper? Pound the steering wheel? (A
friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off!) Do
you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you
try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds
later at work? Why let the blue car ruin your drive.
Remember the 90-10 principle, and do not worry about it!
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep or
get irritated? It will work out. Use your "worrying"
energy and time into finding another job.
The plane is late. It is going to mangle your
schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on
the flight attendant? She has no control over what is
going on. Use your time to study, get to know the
other passenger, etc. Why get stressed out? It will
just make things worse.
You now know the 90-10 secret. Apply it and you will
be amazed at the results.Find more articles at
http://www.Magic-People-Skills.com
(C) 2001, Arlen Busenitz. Arlen is a free
lance writer specializing in people skills
and personal improvement.
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People Like You" can be found here:
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