Shirley: Being a very compassionate mom that you are pretending to be

How can you twist my words when you really do not know the circumstances when I put my son in his room etc?

Yes. I do have quiet times for him every day for one hour during summer esp. He is sent to his room to llok at pics or lay down and relax. I do it consistently and he walks right into his room when told to do so w/o any physical force applied.

As far as BM loads, nothing has changed. He is still crapping in his pants after school and saves it just for me! You don't understand anything about other people's children. May be because your child is very high functioning w ASD??

Let me make this very clear to you now:
1) Yes. I will restrain my son if he puts himself in danger or hurts others in any manner. It is not a punishment, but a consequence for his behavior, if deemed necessary.
2) Toilet training is still going on daily, w occassional success of him taking a load in toilet.
3) Yes. I will send him to his room for quiet time and breaks, every day during summer and winter or weekends
as a routine scheduled activity so that he can train himself to give me a break qualitatively in the long run. It is not a punishment.
4) I have no other person during summer to give me a break for few hours in a week, so I programmed him to give me a break peacefully.

Is that a problem for you? I hope not. You see, there are some kids in school settings, who would require restraints at times. Not necessarily tying them up or harnessing them to a "pole". But some sort of qualified intervention by trained staff. I am all for it.

Whether you agree or not, they will do it for your child if your child acts up! Beaware now.