dont even know what to say anymore.
there is not even a chance to deal with the first one.
no letter to the school yet, and it is now a week since the last one happened.
and.. so... now he is suspended for 3 days....
am not knowing what to do anymore.
there is no help anywhere for this problem, and cant deal with it in any other way except to just keep him home, and wait for the police to come and fine us too....
or do whatever they do... send mineself to jail, and the kids then to foster care if that happened...
just dont know how to deal with this alone and am not equiped with friends or support persons here.
am lost now.
so he came home.
it started apparently on the bus.
son was talking to some other child on the bus.
there is a "bus monitor" (an older child) who is supposed to keep the children following rules.
this bus monitor is not taught obviosuly about autism, and about our personal space needing to be big.
so she sat down in sons seat. to talk to him.
to him this is NOT her seat. it is HIS seat.
so to him the issue immediately comes, HER being in HIS seat.
nothing else made any sense to him.
he just told and said that he got in trouble for talking to some child.
that is why bus monitor came to his seat.
he is still upset that she was in his seat.
(he has hard enough time with the fact that the bus driver keeps changing his seat, from one end of the bus to the other, every few weeks).
noone cares or understands us.
like son said crying "they dont understand me" "noone except you mom understands me"
so he had gotten upset with the bus monitor for being in his seat.
only obsessing to her about that.
he says that he kept telling her "get away from me"
he had told her to sit across the hall in the seat adjacent to him. she wouldnt.
she kept sitting beside him in his seat. (had made him push over to the window seat, which was empty)
he had gotten meltdown type behaivour. he tells anyuways.
from what it sounds like.
so he had gotten upset more and more, and started yelling at her "get away from me!"'
over and over.
son says she was mad at him for talking back to her.
she told him "you will get suspended for this"
he is not able to describe wether he got suspended immediately after getting to school, or if teh "talk" with the principal was at the end of the day.
but this is what am able to gather from what he is trying to tell.
(there is a message on teh answering machine from the principal, but am too scared to evenlisten to it right now. the last time her mesage was not helpful.
it just said "your son is suspended for one day for being bold, and just to let you know that a one day suspension is not appealable"
left her a phone message, about the issue, and told her that a letter was going to follow it. she never called back nothing. and ofcourse ther eis no letter, making lg a liar now.
cant face them.
so dont know what "her" version of all this is, but dont care. about it.)
so son tells that she was YELLING! at him in the office. and then he had said something about it being abusive to yell at people, and shehad told him to shut his "damn" (he insists that she had said damn, this IS hard to believe, is it?) mouth, and he had asked her "what about our pledge of freedom at the beginning of the day, where it says we are supposed to be free to speak our minds".
she had told him to "go to class" she didnt want to talk to him anymore.
he says that today the special ed. teacher AGAIN pulled him out of gym.
she had JUST talked to mineself on the telephone yesterday. told her that wanted to see a schedule of days that she has seen son, because son tells that she has only seen her twice since his IEP was written up feb. 19th. although it says "2 periods a week" was the schedule.
confronted her about it. told her wanted to see the schedule she has of when she has seen him. she said "i dont have my schedule here right now"... and said she "believe it is more often then that" (well IF she had seen him the 2 periods a week like she is supposed to she could have immediately said that she IS seeing him 2 periods a week) what a bullshitter she is!
asked her which peridos she is pulling him out of, becuase the last time he was taken out of gym, and he IS NOT to be taken out of gym. this child has only 60 minutes of gym total for a week, (40 minutes one day, and 20 minutes another) and taht is NOT enough for a active spgers kid. NO WAY!!.
infact they didnt even take mine suggestions about giving him transition breaks in the IEP. nothing.
so told her yesterday on phone that she IS NOT to take him out of gym. she didnt reply.
did tell her that the IEP was not consistent with his needs, and that is why had not signed it. asked her if she had read the OT report, no she hadnt. told her about the computer for writing it says in it, she says, "ther IS a computer in teh clasroom, he can use it if he wants to". told her he needs to be qued as to when it is appropriate to go use it. he would otherwise sit there at the computer all day and type whatever if he was given the chance to.
he needs to be TOLD now is the time to go write notes. or whatevfer.
told her a bunch of stuff.
told her taht was wanting a IEP meeting. she said "you mean with me?"
(what kind of a question is that? NO with the POPE you dummy!)
said, "yes, you the principal, and the special ed. co-ordinator from teh board". (ofcourse have NOONE to go with mineself, or to evenbring mine to there!! aaghh why am saying these things? about meetings, just know it is necessary. just have no way fo figuring out how to make it happen!)
ok. so taht was that conversation. yeterday, and today she pulls him out of his 40 minute gym class.
they are doing this on purpose.
how else can they not understand?
HAD told the principal that son needs help to calm down. when he is upset. he needs a CALM voice person to talk to him, to explain that he can have 5-10 (give him a time limit) minutes to himself.
TOLD HE NEEDS ALONE TIME!!!! when he is supset.
what does she do???
she crowds him.
she stands right over him and yells at him.
he was scared to get on the bus after school he tells.
he was mature enough to say "am so upset, that am scared will say something bad again on the bus"... the principal had told him "get on teh bus anyways. the bus driver had told him to get OFF. teh bus.
she had suspended him for 1 day OFF the bus.
so he gets OFF the buys.
principal comes up to him and starts to yell..
at him.
he flips out.
son started to swear at the principal.
she suspneded him for 3 days
this is what son tells.
he is crying at home.
very agitated.
stimmy.
picking at his face and skin onhands.
wouldnt eat. says "i hate corn" but he loves it.
ony at the seeds from watermelon.?? what is THAT about?
this is too bizarre.
there is no help.
am givng up on everytihng.
waiting for ....
?
what >?
