i am sorry

it is common for nt's to ignore the rules? yes

people in general will complain when someone else does not follow the rules especially when it puts them out. but these same people who will think nothing of cheating themselves

tony attwood is very well experienced in working directly with aspies, so perhaps that is the difference between him and the others. perhaps tony has worked with people himself directly and many of the others have spent too much time reading/writing books and feeling self important.

i am so very sorry that these people who are supposed to be helpful were instead so ignorant.

one mroe thoguht is often people who hold these types of seminars are not really interested in helping the individuals on Spectrum personally, often they are more geared to helping the parents and families of autistic kids cope. there is a profound difference in their focus, would you not agree?

i think perhaps on the matter with the email, sometimes people who have groups like this do not answer all their own email. sometimes they have someone in the office who sends the replies for them, like form letters. so when people email in with problems, they send back generic advice and links to sites they have set up for more detail.

perhaps your email was one that they did not have an answer to and it was easier for them to delete it and pretend it never got there. does your email allow you to get a return receipt when they receive it? if it does, you might try resending it with this feature turned on, so you can see if they do indeed get it.

i look forward to hearing more about your experience, altho from the sound of things you have already given us the good part.

i am sorry that this was not a better time for you.