We don’t fight over the really common things married people fight over... like money, chores, not spending enough time together... stuff like that.
The guy really didn't talk about things that we didn't already know, but i guess he touched on things that people need to be reminded of.
He talked about how compromise is SO important. He gave up golf for his wife for five years, because it was such a huge issue (he golfed instead of spending time with his wife - something like 5 nights a week!)
He did say something that i found rather odd, though. He said that (this is statistically speaking), "the best time in your marriage is the first two or three years. Once children come, it all goes down hill. The time when they get to junior high school is the lowest point of most marriages.. If you make it past that, you have a 50/50 chance of making it past high school. If you pass high school and you're still married, you have a 50% chance of staying married until the end."
I found that rather odd. You would think that when your children are very young (newborn to age 6 or 7) that your marriage is hardest. In middle school they finally start to leave you alone!
He also said that you can’t be afraid of being wrong, but you have to be careful not to be the one who always gives in because you don’t want to fight with your mate. I know that I have to be really careful when we fight and not win all the time. He talked about fighting fair and walking away from it until you can talk calmly… which we do (a lot, actually). So it was reassuring in that sense
He touched a little on communication, mainly the importance of it. And he's right, it's the cause of 70% of our arguments (usually we're talking about two totally different things and end up laughing about it later).
I did like hearing other people share issues they have with marriage. Although I don’t really relate to most of them on a personal level, it was good to know that other people have problems, too. Not big issues that make people think about divorce, but those little, day to day type things.
Most of our friends aren't married, so its nice when we find other couples who are going through the same things
or same types of things
This was literally the first time since we've been married that we've been able to attend a marriage bible study thing. We're definetly going back!
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