Well the holidays have come and gone and, as I promised Steve, I have re-evaluated my relationship with the old flame. I think its going to be filed back with the “that was nice but not quite right” category.

Actually everything was fine right through the first of December. He then had a talk with our mutual friend (who also happens to be the ding dong who set him up with his two ex wives) and told him what was going on with us. Ding Dong then tells him he’s not ready for a serious relationship (who was asking him to be in one right now? Certainly not me.). Ding Dong then calls me and lectures me about the whole thing. I tried explaining that I am putting no pressure on anyone for this to be serious. I have my own life to deal with and it is just beyond my abilities right now to figure out how I could make something long term, as in commitment, work right now. I was happy spending time with the guy a couple times a month and talking on the phone a few times a week.

Then the ice storm hit and screwed up so many things. Then there was the holidays - his first as a single guy again. Then I left for Colorado and he got sick. We didn’t talk. We didn’t see each other. I stopped getting phone calls and messages telling me he missed me. He stopped trying to make it a priority to see me, even occasionally (I still have his Christmas present - cigars and port - because I haven’t seen him). When I asked why the change in temperature, he told me that he thought he’d made it clear that he wasn’t ready for a commitment. Again, who asked him to be? Just because he proposed to the two ex wives after 6 months does not mean that’s what I am waiting for. If he had even gotten close to mentioning it, I would have laughed out loud. But he hurt my feelings and still seems completely clueless, so I think I’m done.

I had a job interview yesterday. He knew about it and told me good luck. But he never called last night to ask how it went. My birthday is this weekend and he knows it. If he doesn’t come up with something befitting the respect and recognition I deserve, he-e-e-e-e’s OUTTA HERE!

Thanks for listening. I needed to vent.

Thanks for sharing some of these personal details with this man.

Oh and hey, if you don't give those cigars and port to him, I know some people who might be interested in them!

-Steve

Now is the time!

Sounds like if you stayed with this guy things could have gotten messy. He definitely has some issues to deal with, huh?

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but definitely more frustration and disappointment than I am willing to deal with at this time in my life. I still believe he is a great guy. He's just clueless in a relationship. It was a nice diversion while it lasted.

Not only did the idiot not show for my birthday, he told me so by TEXT MESSAGE! No phone call or anything. He didn't even say he was sorry nor did he ever wish me happy birthday. Just a text message that read "can't make it this weekend." JACKA$$.

... Evidence, or perhaps the clear sign you spoke of to indiciate it's time to move on here.

Hang in there, Jen. You did your best with this guy, and I trust you feel good about that.

-Steve

Now is the time!

But still...

The combination of my birthday (geez, I feel old) and this coming down, just make me feel so hopeless sometimes. Good grief, how pathetic am I? This isn't even anything worth feeling like crap over, and yet I do.

Blah!

Hee hee...not really but I mean, for real, as everyone has always said....if he likes you, he will pursue! And that is very very true!

You deserve the best out of life and moving on means moving up!!! There ARE real men out there (they must be in CO cause there's none in AR) HA!!!

I'm sad to hear that he's being a schmuck.... but I'm glad that you are able to handle it and say "hey, if you dont treat me like a lady, good bye."



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